A Wife, Mother and Homemaker: A Practical Guide to Home Education – Post-Secondary Options (Part 8)

You may remember a story I told earlier about a student who was afraid to share her career ambitions because she thought I would disparage her choice. She wanted to be a wife, mother and home maker!

In a world that is questioning the importance of, or openly attacking the traditional nuclear family, it is not hard to understand how this young lady could have thought that her desire to spend her life in this way would be looked down upon in our modern society.

When children are asked what they want to be when they grow up, they will answer based on the limited knowledge they have and most will be thinking of themselves and the benefits their “career choices” will bring to them.

Prepubescent children are too young to understand the gravity of this question, not having the capacity to understand who God is, what His character is like, what He expects of “grown-ups” and how temporal things may not advance eternal outcomes.

Adults making decisions based on feelings while failing to take God into consideration, also unfortunately, end up thinking and acting like children. Feelings require no knowledge or understanding, so it is much easier to go by feeling than thought. This is something that manipulators clearly understand, but I digress.

What does “God is love” mean? Does it mean that God has a responsibility to love, or is obligated to be consistent in His application of love, perhaps implying that we don’t? How does God’s love manifest itself in our lives?

Sure, “God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son”, but “greater love has no one than laying down his life for his friends.” Both instruct us in what love is.

Jesus taught us that love was the voluntary giving of oneself. He personally demonstrated His great love by giving us His very life that we might have eternal life through Him. Our faith in His action is best summarized by an often quoted cliché of “love is not love until you give it away,” which brings us back to our original story.

The young lady I mentioned was concerned that her decision of how she was going to spend her life would be scorned by others.

I want to emphasize the fact that she wanted to “spend her life” being a wife, mother and homemaker. What exactly does “spend her or our life,” mean? We may state this, but do we clearly comprehend what we are saying? Let me help with that.

Suppose God gave you forty million dollars, with the stipulation that you spend it any way you want by a specified time. How would you spend it? How much of this money would you spend helping others? How much on yourself?

Considering that the money is actually God’s and knowing that His measure of right doing is in keeping with the fact that He is the personification of Love, how would you accomplish this task?

In a way, God has given you forty million! Consider that there are 60 minutes in every hour, each day has 1440 minutes and each year has nearly 526,000 minutes, 525,960 to be exact. Assuming that you will live until you are 76 years of age (an arbitrary assumption), you have about forty million minutes at your disposal.

How are you going to spend this forty million? Like money, your life is finite. Like money, no matter how you spend your life, you are indeed “spending” it. Like money, you have been given a limited amount that will eventually run out. Like money, you spend it, until it is gone.

Considering these things, how will you spend yours?

Using love as our measure of Godliness, what do you think will bring the greatest fulfillment to your life, spending it on yourself or on others? Would spending it on immediate self-gratification be as fulfilling as investing it towards the future?

Put another way, what do you think you will be able to bring to heaven? Money? Fame? Prestige? Title? How about a life-long career of advancing yourself ahead of others? No! No! No!

The only thing we can possibly bring with us and even then it depends on the decisions of others, are those people we have influenced in some way to accept the way, the truth and the life.

Is there a better way to do that than in serving others? Is there anything more important than doing this within a family?

Our young lady had chosen to give her life away, to spend it as a loving wife, mother and faithful homemaker, rather than by having another career.

Spending one’s life with an eye to eternity as it affects not just ourselves, but generations to come, is to have God’s own heart beating within us.

The very best post-secondary option for any person is to aspire to do what God has created them to do. For young ladies, that likely includes wanting to spend your life being a wife, mother and homemaker. There is no higher calling and there are no academic levels or prerequisite courses required. At least, not yet!

Our Ultimate Desire

Part of the series First Things First
Written by Léo Gaumont, published on 2015-10-26.

Jesus described Himself as the Way, the Truth and the Life (John 14:6). This description describes who we should want to be and the motivation for our lives.

We are generally all ignorant of what is actually happening around us. This ignorance can either be perpetuated and capitalized upon or fixed to empower the masses. It is time to enlighten home educators who have generally been kept in the dark respecting what is occurring within their community. (Ephesians 4: 11-16)

Bible Reference: John 13:31-35

I love music. In fact music is playing in the background as I write this blog. I find it soothing, uplifting and inspiring. There seem to be no limits to music, ranging from nature’s sounds to a seemingly limitless list of genres made by a plethora of musical instruments that ultimately describes the creative intelligence of man to the glory of God. Music expresses and defines our greatest needs and desires in both a positive and negative light. In fact, I believe that music follows a simple pattern outlined by Jesus when He described Himself as the Way, the Truth and the Life. If this is how Jesus described Himself and we should all know that He is Lord, then it should be easy to understand that, in light of the fact that He is the creator of mankind, this is what mankind yearns for and the ultimate desire of man’s soul. Music reflects this desire as it elevates three things above anything else. Listen for yourself and you will find that music relates to freedom (the Way), love (the Truth) and life (the Life).

Whether we know it or not, those three things are what defines us and our ultimate reason for living. We all yearn for the freedom that seems to escape us in this life. In the movie Braveheart, William, a hero fighting for a free Scotland, shouts, “Freedom!”, as his final word before his execution. People naturally seek freedom for their entire lives, with death as the ultimate expression of it for those who know the Way.

Love is likely the most frequently discussed topic in music and life. It cannot occur without people, so when we discuss relationships we talk about love, because we live for love. God is described as the essence of love, so if He created us in His image and likeness, love defines who we are and therefore, the truth of our existence.

If love defines us, it must be what life is all about. In fact, if you were on your deathbed with only a few days or hours to live, assuming of course that you are still cognizant, I believe the only things on your mind would be God, family and friends… relationship, relationship, relationships. This is love and freedom and life!

So, if we were to stop and seriously think about what matters in life, what is our ultimate desire and goal for everything we do, it has to do with freedom, love and life, which the Way, the Truth and the Life created us for in the first place, and what He provided for us through His incarnation, death and resurrection. Everything is ultimately evaluated using these three measures, with love being the ubiquitous ultimate measure as the standard of God’s essence. Jesus stated: “By this will all men know that you are my disciples, if you have love one for another”. Freedom to love for life; the Way, the Truth and the Life.

As we look forward to investigating what is happening in our world as it pertains to Christian education, let us not forget the measuring stick by which we will judge the rightfulness of words and actions… love that frees us to have life. If it does not represent freedom, love and life in a positive light, it is likely not from God and therefore undesirable. Knowing the Way, the Truth and the Life exposes perversions, lies and death.